How To Get Your Life Together
It is never too late to start again.
Sometimes
in life, you reach a stage when everyday life becomes a chore. Your
motivation levels are low, you are bored of doing the same things
over and over again, you are unsatisfied with yourself... This can
only mean one thing: you need to start again. To find purpose in a
new, exciting mindset. You need to put everything on the table and
light your fire. Blow on those little weak sparks and turn them into
growing flames.
Take
it from someone who has been there, done that. I have sat down,
thought about what I could do to improve my static mood, static
routine and static life, and here is my advice. Read this post, think
about it, then get up and go kick butt to restart the exciting life
you deserve to be living. Because ain't nobody got time to spend a
boring time on the planet.
Step 1: Pin Down The Problem
To
know where to start, you have to put into words what is wrong with
your current situation. Do you feel that your everyday routine is not
satisfying anymore? Do you want to inject more creativity in your
life? Start new projects? Change up an unhealthy lifestyle? Redirect
your professional career? Sit down, grab a pen, and think hard about
what is wrong with where you currently are. What is the thing (or the
things) in your life that don't give use the happiness and drive that
you used to have. Write it down, big and clear, so you can put into
words the ideas that, in your brain, must feel like a big bag of
confusing thoughts. Writing in town really makes a difference,
because brain-dumping will allow you to get those ideas off your mind
and allow you to breathe a little.
Once
you've written down the problem(s), don't feel stuck. It will be resolved if you give it time. Which leads on to our second step...
Step 2: 'What Do I Really Want?': Figure Out What You Want To Do
Once
you have figured out the issue, think about what would make it
better. Now, this can be a bit daunting as if you feel really lost
and uninspired, you may not have a straight answer for that. For this
reason, don't put too much pressure on yourself and just think about
this: what, right now, is making you really happy? What activity do
you still really enjoy doing even with your low levels of motivation?
What is the one thing that keeps you going? Who are the three people
you'd text right this moment, because you feel drawn to reaching out
to them? If you could do one thing there and now, no matter how unattainable, what would it be?
Think
about your answer to these questions. Write them down, take a step
back, and think about what this is saying about you. It could be a
hobby that you love, it could be a friend you haven't talked to in
ages but feel like connecting with again, it could be a professional
path you've had in the back of your mind for ages but left it behind
because of life circumstances, but which is now creeping back at the
forefront of your thoughts... This will be your goal. You could have
a big goal, or a few smaller goals that altogether would make you
change your life for the better.
Write
them down in big, bold red letters. Your goal has to be short,
concise and correspond to what you want exactly.
Taking my hobby to the next step.
Switching careers and start a professional course.
Embracing a healthy lifestyle.
Letting go of negativity in my life.
Your
goal will be your motto. Stick it on your wall, on the desk. Put it
as the wallpaper of your laptop. Keep reminders that you will be
strong and keep to it until you achieve. Set your mindset ready for
success!
Step 3: The Everyday Plan: pick something to improve every day
No
matter how big or small your target is, to make it achievable and
successful you need to break it down in smaller chunks. Think about
something you can do every single day to reach towards your goal. It
may be doing a little of a new hobby every day, or teaching yourself
a new skill for work at the weekend, or creating yourself a meal plan
or a workout calendar if your aim is to switch up your lifestyle. One
step, two step, three steps; achievable, realistic, motivating. Make
it things that you will enjoy doing, that will bring you joy,
positivity and pride the journey you're undertaking.
I
would advise you to have some sort of planner or diary where you can
trace, day by day or week by week, the new little things you are
bringing into your life to make it take the right turn.When you've
got those things down in your planner, stick to them. Every day, take
a tiny step forward. Celebrate each new accomplishment that gets you
on your way to your goal. Keep track of your progress and work your butt off to see the changes you are making in your own life. As I
said, and I will say again: this is a journey.
Step 4: Find Support and Inspiration
Even
though this is a personal journey, do not feel like you have to do it
on your own! In fact, embarking your family and/or friends on this
will only make the whole process richer. Talk to your loved ones,
seek advice, create memories along the way, and know who you want to
have by your side to start on this new path you're taking. It may be
that your fresh start has to do with getting rid of some toxic people
in your life, or going through a breakup (whether for love or
friendship,) or taking your distances with a work environment where
the people have made you lose your flame. People are important, they
can support you in the changes you are making in your life. They can
inspire you, if they have felt the same things as you, done the same
things as you - trust me, you are not the only one who's ever felt
that way. Reach out, connect with people and speak up about what you
are doing. You could in turn be helping out others more that you'd
think...
Step 5: Keep Reminders Of Your Goals
Even
if your goal seems scary, too big for your little shoulders, fear not:
you can do it. You can't give up before you start, and no matter how
far you go, every step will bring you something new, and you should
be proud to even just have started your journey. It is not about how
long it takes, or how other people compare to you, it is about
yourself. Sometimes, we have to be selfish and put ourselves first.
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Have you ever felt the need to start everything again? What do you do to refresh your life?
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20 commentaires
I did start again a few years. Now I love what I'm doing, but I plan to make a huge change, that will completely reshape my life. It's scary, but I think is worth it.
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DeleteThis is such a brilliant and thought-provoking blog post babe! Thinking properly about what you really want and what ultimately you want to achieve can be SO eye opening - you're right! Hope you're having a lovely weekend so far Julia :)
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I'm happy you enjoyed it Gabrielle. You're so right - you can't get what you want until you figure out exactly what it is! xx
DeleteI definitely like taking baby steps when it comes to dealing with problems in life. Tackling them day by day and setting small goals helps me cope.
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DeleteAww this is such a lovely post! I love it! Hope you're having a lovely Friday and hope you have a great weekend.
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Thank you Layla, I hope you had a lovely weekend too! xx
DeleteThank you for this post, it's so useful!
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Of course Beata! xx
DeleteI totally needed this post right now! I've worked out what I want to achieve and I just need to do it haha
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As Nike say, just do it haha! Hope you smash everything you want to achieve! xx
Deletebaby steps and solving one problem at the time always seem like the only solution to me. I try not to get too stressed but it is so hard! I am a strong believer that a positive environment (work, friends, family) is the biggest help ever to achieve any result.
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A positive environment definitely makes a difference! You need to be surrounded by people who support and help you through your choices and decisions. Go girl! xx
DeleteSuch a motivating post girl! Well done!
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Thank you Lisa, I hope it helped you somehow! xx
DeleteThis is just the advice I need right now! Trying to get my life in order before the end of the month!
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I hope everything turns out well for you Meredith! Good luck! xx
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