14/09/2018

LIFESTYLE | Do What Makes You Happy


Don't waste more time.

With the popularity of self-care, personal growth and positivity movements, there is a consensus (and you'll probably agree with me) that to be happy, you should do what makes you so, no matter what others say. Of course, it is not as easy as it sounds, otherwise there wouldn't be a bazillion other posts like this one on the Internet. The truth is, social pressure is a real thing and it can hold you back in ways you would not even think about in your everyday life. Thus, it is why today I am here to tell you that you should always, always just do what you want. And fight for it!


Nothing lets your personality shine through more than doing what you like. Whether it is by doing a job you are passionate about and feel like it is worth getting up in the morning for, or finding the hobby that helps you unwind and makes you proud when you talk about it. Blogging is a particularly relevant activity for this: even though it is getting more and more common out there, blogging can still be stigmatised by some people, seen as stupid, useless, narcissistic, and so on. From raised eyebrows to comments on how superficial this whole hobby is, we've heard it all. How many bloggers like me have often decided to keep it a secret? I used to be very reluctant to talk about my blog and what I blogged about, mainly because of the negative ideas held by others who did not happen to enjoy blogging themselves. Well, thanks Karen, but I'm not a fan of aquabiking. Let me blog all I want. To each their own. 


There are many social situations where we restrain ourselves from expressing what we really want to say or do. The first instinct, when you get into a group, is often to 'go with the flow' and adapt to the people you are interacting with. This can lead to a lot of frustration, especially if you would very much to express something about yourself that you think wouldn't fit in at that moment. As an introvert, I have lived this too many times: not talking about something I love because it seems like it isn't to the others' taste, diminishing myself or giggling out of embarrassment when someone makes a comment that I do not agree with... Preventing myself from being me, basically.

Now, I think this is wrong. I should never be made to feel like I should not share about what makes me happy and what I love doing. I should surround myself with people who love me for all that makes me, me. People who understand and support me along the way. This is what friends and (valuable) family are for. 
Because nothing will make you happier than doing what you want, no matter how silly other people may think it is. And for me, it sometimes mean posing for pictures in public places. People will look, people may think it's weird, but it makes me happy, confident and fuels my creativity, so I will keep doing it as long as I want to. The most important thing is to keep yourself happy, fulfilled and let that fire burn. Listen to yourself, be bold, and do the things that makes you smile.

What is the one thing you love and will do no matter what?
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24 comments:

  1. So important! Lovely post girl

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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  2. Blogging. And You Tube and the stuff that comes with it. Like many others I don't always get support, not even from friends and family, when I talk about it, but I am too old to care. I no longer waste my time trying to pretend I like other things, that only means I loose time to do what I actually enjoy.

    Anne - Linda, Libra, Loca

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    1. It's sad how many of us don't get that understanding from these hobbies/passions... Things are very slow to move it seems. But you're right, don't lose time doing what you don't enjoy! xx

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  3. Yeeeess! I loved this post! Youtube was actually the subject I find hard to talk about but I think I've got the point where I can talk freely about it - which makes me so much happier!

    franalibi.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Fran, I'm so glad you enjoyed! It's a journey of self-acceptance and confidence I guess to reach the point when you feel like you can talk freely about it! xx

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  4. AAAH THE PHOTOS!!! This post is STUNNING!! I love the location so much!

    Erin || MakeErinOver

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    1. Haha I'm happy you like it Erin! xx

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  5. Aw great post Julia! For me, I am always so scared that I am wasting life that it makes everything I do not seem worth it for me >< I think worrying that I am wasting life is wasting my life in itself haha, something that recently really helped me is deciding I was going to live a wasteful life, if that makes sense haha! And do what I love, and that stops the pressure and gives me so much more freedom :D I love what you wrote about not worrying what people think, I love to wear vintage and old fashioned styles, so much so that I can look straight from a pantomime when people even stare when I wear a long skirt xD but I do it regardless because I'm not scared to be different and enjoy what I love :D xx

    elizabeth ♡ ”Ice Cream” whispers Clara

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    1. You should definitely remove that pressure from yourself Elizabeth! Worry can bring you down in so many ways, embrace your life and keep doing what makes you happy every single day, even if it is little things - it's what makes it special for you, not matter what others do with theirs! xx

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  6. I just don't bother with this sort of issues. While I don't keep my blogging a secret, I don't talk about it unless is relevant and most of the time is not. :)

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    1. You have the right attitude Anca! xx

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  7. You make a great point about how our personalities tend to shine through more when we're enjoying what we're doing - whether that's work, social or otherwise related! You look so lovely in this patterned floral dress Julia, hope you're having a fabulous week so far :)

    aglassofice.com x

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  8. I'm with you, I used to never tell anyone about my blog. When I first started dating my boyfriend, he found out about my blog and was so proud of all the work I put into it, he told all his friends, not realizing that I was keeping it a secret! It's sort of forced me to be more okay with it and now, I tell people about it without feeling embarrassed - we all have our hobbies. It may seem superficial to some but as long as I'm not hurting anyone, it doesn't really matter what other people may think of it, right?
    On a sartorial note, I am LOVING your dress here! Florals seem appropriate considering the location of these photos!

    xo Deborah
    Coffee, Prose, and Pretty Clothes

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    1. Haha it's funny Deborah because my boyfriend does the same with me, he is very supportive in all I do with my blog and has told people about it, when I tended to be quite reserved about that hobby. Sometimes your family, friends and partner can help you so much with being proud of what you do - and we should always do that for others too! xx

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  9. this dress suits you so well
    new post:
    https://www.melodyjacob.com/2018/09/what-to-wear-to-fashion-show-color.html

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  10. Great post! So many things you said resonated so much with me, especially the part with wasting time. Also, it was such a relief to tell people about my blog. Not going to lie, I got some funny remarks, but most people have been so supporting.

    Beauty Nerd

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    1. Don't worry about the funny remarks Georgiana, it must come from a place where people don't really know or understand blogging. Keep with those who understand and support you! xx

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  11. Great post. I completely agree with you. In life it is only important do what make you happy. People always have their ideas how you suppose to live, but it is only important listen your hart and do on your own way. It is recipe for happy life.

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